Are you a Glamma or Grandmother? That is the question! A common question that comes up in our Facebook Group, The First Glamma Grandmother Group all the time. What should my new grand baby call me? Glamma or Grandmother or something else. So, why don’t we want to be called grandma? Well, let’s talk about that.
The grandmother image of old has changed over the last 5-7 years. Why? Because Grandma or Grandmother titles don’t match the image of old (in years that is) 🙂 Women in our modern world no longer want to be called grandma or grandmother anymore because of that ‘elderly’ image! The previous image of grandma is someone old, crinkled with grey hair, hunched over, walking with a cane, and sitting at home all day long. That is not the image of the current grandma’s nowadays, nor has it been for years.
The New Age of Glamma!
Many new members of The First Glamma Grandma Group on Facebook are first-time grandmothers and many are under the age of 50. Our website name, called the Glamma Zone tells you why we use Glamma and why it makes sense in this day and age. In search of better ‘grandmother names, especially as we have many young grandmothers in our group, I came across this article to share with our group and to other glamma’s out there! 🙂 Click this link for 57 Names For Grandma to see the various, numerous grandmother names being used throughout the world! I thought it was Awesome!
The True Definition of Glamma
The standard definition is “A Glamma is a woman far too young and glamorous to be called Grandma!” I agree with that! I became a grandmother at age 48, way younger than back in the day. But Glamma, as you see above, is not the only name being used for young grandmothers! Some people are saying but ‘why don’t you want to be called grandma?
Well because we, as young Grandmothers are a different breed in a modern time. We are educated, smart, sophisticated, funny, and well rounded. Glamma’s and Grandmother’s are actively working, exercising, and traveling. Many of us are still working because we are years younger than 65. We eat well and take supplements with a focus on our health. Additionally, medical technology has for many years helped women over 50 look and feel younger- inside and out.
The New Image of A Glamma
Our children are growing up faster and having babies earlier in life. All we can do for our children is be there when they have a child and be the best Glamma or Grandmother that we can! Nothing touches the heart of a grandmother (young or old) more than holding the baby of her own child!
Glammas are phenomenal in my book because we manage many life issues. For instance, glammas are going back to college later in life. I received my 1st degree, an A.A.S in IT, then my Bachelor’s Degree, then my Master’s Degree at age 52. Not bragging, just confirming that we can do anything we want to do! That mentality of a grandmother, all wrinkled up, has withered away and is gone! I was in college with young women, middle-aged women, and seniors when I was a grandmother. It didn’t matter because age is just a number and grandma is just a name. As the world modernizes so does the Glamma name to fit a new world and a new image!
Don’t Blame Us Cause We’re Smart & Beautiful
A year or two ago I read an article in the Huffington Post, an online newspaper. The author, a young woman, criticized other women who called themselves glammas. The article, called ‘The Problem With Glamma’ insults who we are as grandmothers. Click on the link above and read it for yourself, but I hated the article!
The author stated “Glamorous is all well and good for some. But there’s a dignity, an honor, a self-confidence that comes when someone embraces where they’re at in life, be it a mother or grandmother, rather than trying to deny the passage of time. My question is: How does she know?? She is NOT a grandmother! Who said we do not embrace where we are at life? Who said we didn’t have dignity or honor or self-confidence! Maybe that’s been her experience, but not ours!
As time passes, so does new technology, medicines, and new information to keep all people healthy, happy, and wise. We can see the world around us changing and the youthfulness of everyone! How can that author know that we embrace our role, no matter what we’re called or how we look? Why can’t she see our passage of time includes education, work experience, history, etc? All valuable commodities of being young and a grandmother. We are experienced, loving, educated, and intelligent women.
That insulting article shows a criticism of women over the age of 50 who dare to feel they are still young in mind, body, and spirit! The author’s image of a grandmother is plain outdated in our modern world. It shows a lack of understanding of ‘where’ the world is now with younger women having children making the grandmother image of old an inaccurate description.
Younger, Vital, Healthy, Educated & Living Life!
Glamma or Grandmother. It is just a matter of choice. The term Glamma makes those of us 50 to 60+ feel young because we are still young in mind, body, and spirit. Glamma does not tie us into the ancient generic term of an old lady with gray hair, a cane, and lots of wrinkles.
First of all, no one is denying the passing of time,. Just the opposite. We fully and gladly embrace our role as grandmothers! The other author was missing the entire point! That’s because she is not a grandmother, young or old! My advice to the author is “don’t write about something you don’t yet understand!
The author of that post doesn’t have a clue what it feels like to be a young grandmother under the age of 60. Instead, she blasted her lack of understanding of who we are, meaning Glammas, in the Huffington Post. I thought it was extremely offensive to all grandmothers. She didn’t seem to be aware that for years now, grandmothers do not display the ‘physical’ age of past generations. For many years, Age does not define a grandmother/glamma. Mind, body, and spirit define who we are!
The Beauty of a Glamma – Are We Different Now?
I feel no different than I did when I was 30 years old. At 64, my grown children are living their lives. I have a grandchild who is 18 years of age and another at age 5. I became a young grandmother at 45! Now, I am still 30, in my head! 🙂 Even if I look in the mirror and I see some wrinkles and signs of aging – so what?! I have experienced life! It does not mean I am old.
I am grateful to see my grandchildren grow up, thriving, and moving forward towards their goals. I am proud as I watch them change day by day. I feel incredibly blessed and loved when I can provide hugs, assistance, advice, and wisdom. It is a miracle to see them grow from birth to toddlers to teens to adults. Sometimes it reminds me that I am aging as well, but that does not mean I have to be like the old lady image of grandmothers of the past!
I am happy and grateful that I can get out there and dance with my 18-year old granddaughter. I am happy I can teach my 5 year grandson how to ride a bike running down the street with him as he rides. It makes me happy to teach them the ways of the world. This is the true value of a Glamma or Young Grandmother! No one should criticize the Glamma of the world today because we are modern, smart, and up-to-date with the world!
Grandmother Love – A Double Miracle!
So now – anyone who still thinks Grandma should be a crinkled, wrinkled old lady with a cane, should step back! We are as vital to the world and our families, even more, because with age, comes wisdom. Added to the Glamma of this day are finesse, patience, youthful tolerance, and life experiences! We continue to celebrate our young-ness. We continue involvement in our grandchildren’s lives and pass on the knowledge we have gained over the years.
Yes, I am a Glamma and proud of it! What about you? Leave a comment below if you’re a proud glamma and tell us why? Remember no matter what they call you, a glamma is about how you feel about yourself! Mind, body, and spirit, beautiful inside and out.