By Kathleen Ridley Cheek
On May 24, 2019, my world changed. My husband passed away. It is amazing the things that go through your mind when they say those words. For me, it was the typical voice in my head and heart saying – “Are you going to stay here or move forward? “. As always, I chose to KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that the sting of this life-changing event is not a powerfully devastating sting. But, in spite of it, I need to keep moving forward. That’s my job; that’s my purpose.
We all have life changing events that come to us whether we Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that the sting of this life-changing event is not a powerfully devastating sting. But, in spite of it, I need to keep moving forward. That’s my job; that’s my purpose.them or not. For example, losing a spouse, losing a job, facing emotional challenges, facing health challenges or facing financial challenges. We also can’t forget to count those challenges that sting the ones we love. Our children and their children will face these challenges as well and we cannot discount how they sting us too! Are we going to stay there or KEEP MOVING FORWARD?’
Let’s say we stay there. That means we stay in the hurt and pain. We wallow in it. It cripples us. It makes us angry and physically ill. We can get depressed and become so consumed with the sting that we lose our grip on all the other blessings in our life. Sometimes, as a consequence, we lose it all. I hate to mention that this type of reaction is contagious. We teach others not only by our words but by our actions. Our children and grandchildren are looking at us every single minute. When the ship goes down, so does everyone else. We can’t let that happen. We must fight for ourselves and our loved ones. We must move forward in our faith! We must choose that no matter what, KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
Choosing to move forward is not as easy as saying it. It takes a lot from you. Some people do it quickly and others need more time. Do not worry about how long it takes you, just focus on the fact that you need to KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
Also, be ready for setbacks. You are walking along feeling pretty good and then something comes across your mind and there it is – the setback. I can almost guarantee that it will come. Not to worry, it does not mean that you did it wrong the first time, that you are not strong or any of those other negative thoughts that are brought to mind. It means you’re human. Revisit the hurt, but remember that you to KEEP MOVING FORWARD!
You might need to leave some people by the wayside. Debbie Doubters or Negative Nancy or Pitiful Paul should be left behind. You need to surround yourself with people who will tell you the truth if necessary but will not talk negatively to bring you down. The truth will cause you to think, re-evaluate, and keep moving forward. The negativity will make you feel unsure, insecure, and paralyzed. NOPE! You don’t need that in your life. Don’t be afraid to let those people go. You move faster with less weight – DEAD WEIGHT!
Encourage Yourself! There is a song by Donald Lawrence & The Tri-City Singers. The first verse says:
Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test… And no matter how you feel, speak The Word and you will be healed… Speak over yourself, encourage yourself in the Lord…
This is so very true. You are your biggest cheerleader. Get those pom poms out and raise your voice!
This link has a good deal of quotes that encourage moving forward. Read them over, make one or two your mantra. Take something from the Bible. Remember what your ancestors might have told you. Just get something and hold it in your heart and spirit. You’ll need to bring it to memory with each step MOVING FORWARD.
If you can grab hold of this in some way, you’ll find that things will be just a little easier. Reading through our Facebook group, I see families dealing with illness, kids and grand babies moving away, our children having difficulties with their mates, and we even have to deal with death. Sometimes it’s the Glam-Ma having the issue. Whatever it is – Whoever it is, take a few cleansing breaths and take that first step and MOVE FORWARD!